Saturday, August 30, 2014

Para Sa Mga Naghahabol at Nagpapahabol


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The situation: 

Your "someone" broke up with you (for whatever reason), or perhaps you've been dating and then suddenly bigla siyang naging cold. What do you do? Hahabulin mo ba o hindi? 

The inspiration for writing this is a friend of mine who I shared a good conversation with last night. It’s actually her dilemma. I think it’s worth sharing because for some reason naniniwala ako na may iba na ganito din ang pinagdadaanan. This is just my take on the situation. Not that I’m this arrogant writer trying to preach what’s right and what’s wrong. Just my two cents… 

Answer? It depends. 

Para sa mga naghahabol… 

For a certain period I’ll say yes, hahabulin ko. I’ll do this only if I believe that whatever it is we have is worth saving. Bigyan ng panahon to think things through hanggang makapagdecide siya. Regardless kung anong rason kung bakit kumakawala yung kapit niya, hahabol ako, maghihintay ako, susubukan ko. Hanggang kalian? Pag sinabi na niyang tama na at pagramdam ko that whatever I do, it will be a fruitless battle. 


“Kung mahal niya talaga ako, hahabulin niya ko.” 

I say BULL. I get it that sometimes  people have this need to feel wanted and be chased perhaps to feel important, but if this happens to me, ibabalik ko lang sakanya and say “Kung mahal mo talaga ako, hindi mo ko bibitawan.” You’ll make me feel like I’m this thing that you can drop anytime you want and for what? To make you feel important?? My goodness before you do this whole chasing thing, face the mirror and say this… SELF-WORTH. 

Another point, some people have this misconception na pag inayawan ka na’t hinabol mo, you’re doing it because you love them. BIG NO. You’re doing it to satisfy yourself which means you are being selfish. Binitawan ka na. Kung talagang mahal mo, ibigay mo yung gusto. If they scream freedom, give it to them. It has nothing to do with LOVE but more of RESPECT. Respect for yourself para hindi mo hayaang magmukha kang tanga’t kawawa and respect for the other person’s decision to end things with you. Sinaktan ka na nga, sasaktan mo pa sarili mo, ano pa natira sayo? 

Madaling sabihin, mahirap gawin? Oo. Pero mas madaling magmove on kesa magising isang araw at marealize that you have been stuck for too long and for what? A person who doesn't even want you? Not worth your time at mas lalong not worth your affection. Better give it to someone who wants it… your family, your friends, pero ang the best dun ibigay mo nalang sa sarili mo. Mas may mapapala ka pa. 

I guess I just have this thing about rejection. Ang take ko kasi sa ganyan while I’m with you, I’ll move heaven and earth if I have to mapasaya lang kita. But once you tell me that I no longer make you happy, I’ll let you go.

Mahirap makaugalian ang ipagpilitan ang sarili sa taong ayaw na sayo. Masasaktan ka sa umpisa pero kung alam mo na binigay mo lahat, there’s no such thing as “what if” because you couldn’t have done anything more. Kung kulang pa para sakanya then it’s plain and simple… You’re not right for each other and that’s something na hindi mo mababago kahit sumirko ka pa’t gumulong mula QC hanggang Makati. 

Now if you’re just dating at hindi pa kayo… STOP! Hindi pa nga kayo ginaganyan ka na, papano pa pag naging kayo na. Sometimes people love the CHASE, not
you.
Para sa mga nagpapahabol… 

Decide. Hindi ka si Hitler. Wag kang sadista. Masama ang karma pag bumalik. Say it. Show it habang nandyan pa sila. Now if you don’t really want them, say it straight at panindigan mo. Stop giving mixed signals. Di bale ng magmukha kang rude sa hindi pagrereply o sa pag-iwas. Help them get over you. In other words... WAG KANG PAASA. 



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4 comments:

  1. Bagay na bagay to sa lintik na ex boyfriend ko! Salamat abciddy!

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  2. Tagos kung tagos. Salamat sayo Abciddy!

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  3. Bullseye, sapol na sapol mo ako. Kelangan ko na talaga itigil ang ipagsiksikan pa ang sarili ko.

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  4. to much relate ganiyan din nangyari sa akin

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