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Sabi nila pag hindi mo hinanap, hindi mo makikita.
Sabi naman ng iba wag mo hanapin, dapat hintayin.
Eh ano nga ba talaga? :p
Bago ko sagutin yung tanong… disclaimer lang. I don’t want to imply that I am right or that this is the only way because life and love, for me, is not always black and white. (parang nag-rhyme? :p)
Sa totoo lang hindi ko alam. Sinubukan ko kasi pareho. None of it worked.
Sabi nga ng isang character sa Chance Passenger:
Ang isang bagay, the more na hinahanap, the more na hindi nakikita.
At gaya din ng sabi ni Tin sa #100HappyDays:
Ang tao pag naghihintay, naiinip.
This is in the context of love pero it might apply to all facets of life na rin. When I tried looking for it, I got screwed over because I was trying to find it in the wrong places. Kaya… the more na hinanap ko, the more na napupunta ako sa maling tao. So okay, next experiment… maghintay. The waiting period… ugh! Frustrating. Really. The anxiety you get in that question that plays in your head over and over “Bakit walang dumarating?” could sometimes be unbearable and not to mention, minsan depressing.
So… here’s what I did… WALA.
Try mo wag hanapin, try mo din wag hintayin. It’s not going to do you any good, kahit alin pa diyan sa dalawa. Start to look within. Focus on your life. Make yourself happy. So happy that the “right one” wouldn’t be able to bear to just watch you live your life on your own. So happy that the one meant for you won’t help but be magnetized by your positivity and would love to join you.
Alam kong cliché na yang “Love yourself first” pero may dahilan kung bakit hindi pa dumadating yung taong para sayo. Kasi minsan akala mo ready ka na pero ang totoo hindi pa pala. O baka naman ikaw ang ready pero yung tamang tao para sayo ang hindi pa. I have always believed that “timing” plays a big role when it comes to love. Yung panahon na magiging kayo hindi dahil convenient pero dahil sadyang swak lang talaga. It could happen to you in a year or maybe more but does it even matter kung ngayon palang masaya ka na?
And here’s the thing… hindi lahat sa buhay natin dapat umiikot sa lovelife. Oo, masaya. Nakakakilig. Nakakadagdag inspirasyon pero requirement ba talaga yun?
Minsan may nagsabi sakin na ang lovelife daw eh dapat “cherry on top” lang. Bonus kumbaga. Hindi ko gets noon kasi isa ako sa mga taong enthralled sa idea ng “love”. Pero as time passed and as you experience things that grow you, you will realize that LIFE is bigger than that. Na hindi dapat ikinakahon ang salitang “happiness” sa boyfriend, jowa, o lovelife. :)
As for those who ask papano mo malalaman pag true love na…
Sabi nila ang isang bagay mauunawaan mo lang when you experience giving it and receiving it. So… if you have given yourself the kind of love that you want, you’ll know what true love is. And at some point in your life, you will come across an amazing person who will love you just as much.
Don’t find it.Don’t wait for it.
Trust me, it will just happen and I promise... it will blow you away. ;)