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I’ve been busy the past few weeks both with work and on this book I’ve been writing. Iwas burnout muna so yes… I have to be in trance tonight and leave my toxic world for a few hours. Ergo, magsusulat ako.
I read a post somewhere one time. I can’t remember when exactly pero medyo matagal na. Thought-provoking, matagal ko na gusto i-tackle yung topic pero ngayon lang ako nagka-oras talaga. As stated on the post…
Kailan mo malalaman kung dapat ka na mag-let go sa relationship?
I wish I could talk to the one who posted it so I could have a clear view of the situation but since I have no idea what the whole story is, in general ko nalang ididiscuss. I’m no expert, so whatever it is na mababasa niyo, sakin lang ‘to. Disclaimer lang :)
Going back to the topic…
Kung ako lang… maingat ako when I get myself involved in a relationship. I don’t know how it is with other people, but for me, hindi ako nakikipagrelasyon kasi kung kanikanino lang. Oo, siguro nga pwedeng masabi na pihikan ako. Hindi dahil masyadong mataas ang tingin ko sa sarili ko. Mapili ako kasi pag nasa relationship ako, I want it with someone na sigurado akong ipaglalaban ko kahit hanggang saan kami makarating. So kailan ba dapat mag-let go? Depende yan sa sitwasyon and how you look at it. Sakin kasi, I have my non-negotiables. Maghihiwalay lang tayo sa tatlong rason, No 1: you cheat on me, No.2 pag pinaramdam mo sakin na hindi ka na masaya and No.3 ikaw ang makikipagbreak sakin for whatever reason you have. Other than that, I can bear. As long as I can see that the person I am with is doing everything to make the relationship work, hindi ko siya bibitawan. Because when you want someone to stay in your life and if you know that they want you in theirs too, you fight for it. Period. Pero pag hindi mutual ang feeling, kung ako ang bibitawan, ibang usapan na yun.
You fall in love with someone for a reason. You just don’t fall out ng ganun ganun lang. Na gigising ka isang araw ayaw mo na? Being in a relationship is not easy at hindi yan araw araw sparks and fireworks. Even if you ask people who have been with their partners for years and decades, iisa sasabihin nila sayo. That keeping a relationship is hardwork. Hindi yan tipong araw araw in love ka. Walang ganun. There will be days na nakakapikon siya, na ang sarap niyang kalbuhin, na magagalit ka, mag-aaway kayo, na nakakasawa, na feeling mo ayaw mo na… but that’s the point. FEELING lang yun. Ang tanong… anong gagawin mo sa FEELING na yan? Will you nurture it o lalabanan mo?
I’m not saying that this is how relationships should be kasi kanya kanya naman yan pero para sakin, ang relasyon na nagtatagal, binubuo yan, hindi yan kusang nangyayari. Every waking day that you are in that relationship, you make a decision to be with that person and to love them even during moments that they're the hardest to fall for. I’m not saying na obligasyon yan but that’s what it means when you COMMIT yourself to someone and that is why you really have to choose who you give your heart to. Kasi pag binigay mo na yung puso mo, kasunod na niyan yung isip mo, lahat ng ikaw buong buo. So when you say YES to someone, do everything to protect what you have lalo na kung alam mong worthy yung tao kasi kung lahat ng tao susukuan mo, walang matitira sayo…
The question is not “MAHAL ko pa ba?” kasi araw araw pwede yan magbago.
Ang tanong… “MAMAHALIN ko pa ba?” kasi once pagdesisyunan mong OO ang sagot diyan, walang ng dapat pang pag-usapan.